I stay at home because I don't like showing my ugly face. I'm not flattered since these jokers would jump a scarecrow. So please, don’t put this sort of ridiculous perfectionist pressure on to anyone. Brown medium short hair, a face often inhabited by pimples, brown eyes, full lips, flat chested and smart. I’ve suffered from depression at points in my life, and I’ve suffered from low self-esteem pretty much always. No, it’s ok to not look like a model. We tend to focus on how it affects our perception of ourselves, but the media affects how we judge others, too. You can either complain about it (strengthening reason #1 of” why girls don’t like me”) or you can get some decent jeans, nice shoes, keep clean, and improve your odds at attracting women. At 28, I was carded when buying my mother booze. It’s called attentional bias. Given the choice to pay attention to what could make her look good, or to what could make her look bad. 99% of our conversations are about him and it’s gotten old pretty fast. The great think is that anyone can be attractive with some effort. Stan says. You NEED something from the other person, usually acceptance/approval. written by disconsolate 9/4/2010. I am very sensitive and I fear being criticized and judged by others. Every single man could easily find a woman if he would settle for one only slightly better looking than himself. Balanced attention will counter our natural loss aversion, and let us see ourselves as others already do. Admit it. ", I don't. You internalized it and carried it around like a backpack. They’d find one and then hunt for the next one while all the beautiful parts of you kept getting in the way. The blasted media and the narrow standard of beauty it imposes. Makeup or hair or exercise or eating healthy. I hope I get used to it soon, it still attracts attention for some reason, attention I thought would end at my age which many in the USA seem to think of as 'old.' Their comments mean nothing to me because they reveal what *they* think of me. It’s Trying to Save Us. And in the rest of this article, I’ll try to explain some common reasons why you become shy in certain situations or with certain people. What I've seen is men looking for hot 20 year olds regardless of what they themselves looked like. On separate occasions, I have had men tell me that I'm beautiful and also ugly. Most people keep their issues private, so it is really hard to know how normal and happy someone is. Funny. Lots of ugly guys date just fine, and get married. It's not that I dislike Annabeth, it's that I like everyone else more. Why was I not born happy like everyone else? i think im ugly, not really ugly but not as pretty as they describe me. But it seems to be a particularly bad habit for me. People will say I'm pretty and I'm not ugly and it's just not enough I don't believe it no matter what and I'm tired. why is it when the phone rings, I answer just to hear if it's your voice. I was born to a woman who had a pathological jealousy of beautiful women. I fell in love with an ugly man. Why do I do this, live with the constant pain, the suffering, the sacrifice? why is it when I look in your eyes, I see the love burning inside me. (BTW some might qualify as good looking, but their behavior disgusts me. The roller coaster of emotion whips over high peaks, spins, and dips over and over and over its thrilling and its scary and its one hell of a ride. I am a petite girl who wears small glasses and I have 34B cup breasts. Similar to how women love Audrey Hepburn but you don’t hear men talking about how hot she is. She spends as much time on her good points as her bad. Am I ugly because I don’t look as pretty as a model? A big joke they're altogether. Are you sure you want to unfollow the collection "" by (@)? I imagine artists and athletes might be in this category. Only due to the fact that in school I don’t do things the way they are taught, I do things my own way, and I still get the same result. Some people may have more beholders than others. I can tell that he doesn’t find me attractive. Image discovered by you make me weak. If it is indeed true that our preoccupation with our own appearance is driven by our ancient DNA's base instruction to reproduce, then we will always seek out the fittest and healthiest mate from the crowd that we can find. Some people click and some don’t. I do not look human. Nov 26, 2012 - raised in new york city. Archived “I’m not like everyone else” 12 comments. There may be many other effects affecting our total self-perception of beauty. Um. Even my closest friends are nothing really like me. Amy looks fine to Bailey, and vice versa! 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